(The following is a guest post from Tammie Polk, True North Homeschool Academy contributor.)
“OMG!!! I HAVE A JUNIOR HIGH/MIDDLE SCHOOL STUDENT!!!” says every parent at one point in their homeschool journey!
Don’t let this drive you mad, Mama! There is a way to coexist with the ebbing tide of this crucial part of life. Here are some things you can do to make this time bearable.
First, don’t shy away from interest-based/interest-led learning.
Yes, they will still have to learn the stuff that they complain about; however, finding out what they are interested in will help you to plan the middle school –and the high school years—without a lot of hassle.
Next, pay attention to what they’re NOT saying!
Your kids will amaze and surprise you. You’ll think they’re not getting it and then it happens—they show you exactly what you need to do next! What you see could be the key to the nagging question of “How do I motivate my kid to do more or better?” Using what they are showing you could very well be the silver lining.
Then, don’t be afraid to share your talents and hobbies with them.
Many times, when our kids get to this age, they think we don’t know about or haven’t experienced certain things, so it’s time to surprise THEM! Although they may act as though they are disgusted by the fact that they like something that their mom does, it’s still special to them and it opens up key discussions that need to happen at this stage of their lives. I credit my tech savviness to my Dad because he taught me his trade of being a computer technician! Let your kids know what’s in YOUR arsenal.
Last, BE FLEXIBLE!
Goals are important; however, things DO happen. That light bulb may come on long before you think it will and you have to move quickly. Sickness is always a possibility, so it’s important to have backup or rainy day plans on DECK!
It’s important to make the best of these times because they do go FAST! How does that affect you as a working homeschool mom?
- You may have to change the way you do business! Your kids’ schedule is going to change, be it because they need more help with their schoolwork or their activity schedule takes over a little more. You may have to change your hours and work on the go.
- You may have to make them a part OF your business! I tell people all the time that we often miss out on the best help in the world because we don’t take advantage of the skills our kids show that WE consider annoying!
- You may need to help them start THEIR OWN business! Entrepreneurship, whether they intend to go to college or not, is always the order of the day! If they can make money from what they want to do, train them up and help them out!
These years don’t have to drive you to a permanent coffee IV….just saying!
(Concerned about those pesky middle school years? Check out True North Homeschool Academy’s Junior High Courses.)
Tammie Polk is a Mompreneur on a Mission! She is a married, homeschooling mother of three girls ages 15, 10, and 5 from Memphis, Tennessee. When she’s not pouring into her girls, you can find her writing, doing crossword puzzles, or playing games! Her major claim to fame is being the author of over 30 books on life, faith, family, and business- all of which were written in the last three years. Tammie is also a business coach, homeschool consultant, motivational and inspirational speaker, and international radio show host!